Finding Purpose In Your Why

Finding Purpose In Your Why

For many years I searched for purpose. I looked in jobs. I explored relationships. I sought out self-help to understand my inner-whatever. And I always came up short. But you don’t have to. If you seek purpose this way, you’ll always be searching. Your...
Where Does the 2SQT+ Community Go From Here?

Where Does the 2SQT+ Community Go From Here?

As a tarot reader, I was recently asked if I had pulled any cards on the state of the queer community in relation to the GOP. While I hadn’t done so, it got me thinking about why I hadn’t. I used to be an active member of protests, creating art that...
Imposter Syndrome: Conditioning Of The Oppressed

Imposter Syndrome: Conditioning Of The Oppressed

What Is Imposter Syndrome? Imposter syndrome is the psychological pattern where someone doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments. This experience is something you’re exposed to early on and throughout your life as a gay man. Why? It’s the coming out story. You...
Gay Men Repress Love And Joy

Gay Men Repress Love And Joy

I’m Not Crying You’re Crying The first time I had a best friend I was seven. Then our family moved and changed schools. I never saw him again. It’s taken me nearly 38 years to even consider that I might want another best friend. Or that I would let...
Finding Gay Joy

Finding Gay Joy

For some gay people finding joy is about acceptance through heteronormative assimilation (Think marriage and “we’re just like you”). For others it’s about living their queerest gayest fantasy. And for others it’s about bucking every heteronormative...