“The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. ~ Mark Twain

Do you believe Twain’s statement? I do. Experience tells me that you can expect behavior patterns to continue. Even if behavior is classified as spontaneous. A spontaneous person will be spontaneous again. The OCD person will need their handi-wipe before each meal. My mother will always put a clementine in my Christmas stocking.

What about your personal behavior though? What do you do over and again that you wish you could change? If you could change one thing about yourself this year, what would it be? If you answered, “nothing,” then you’re protecting your toxic past. If you paused or something came to mind, then you just may be ready to release those toxins!

Why Do I Manage to Fuck Up Everything Good In My Life?

Not everyone knows what their toxic past behaviors are. You can go through your entire life repeating the same stupid behavior and wondering why you manage to “always fuck up” your life. If I’ve seen it on Twitter once I’ve seen it three to five times a day.

You may need a friend or family member to point your toxic past choices out. And a true friend will point it out with compassion. The trick is hearing them and making the choice to do something about it. ‘Cause if you’re not emotionally available and ready the first time, they’re gonna tell you again. And that just gets annoying.

Not surprisingly, you may know it as soon as it happens. When you feel like you manage to fuck up everything good in your life (again). That’s a great time to examine your choices that could be creating your toxic behavior. BTW, this is a great time to get a Tarot reading. And you can ask exactly what you’re feeling. “How do I manage to fuck up everything good in my life?” I’ll probably ask you to narrow that down to whatever the main issue is (relationship, career, something else…). Then we’ll get you on the path to a more positive life where you stop with all the regret.

So let’s say that you do get that Tarot reading. Imagine that now you know exactly what you do when you’re screwing everything up. Now you can make a choice to change the behavior. And when you do take steps toward that change, reward yourself. If you continue doing something toxic there is no reward. What do you want, ice cream? Spa day? Take it. Reinforce that good behavior!

Tomorrow is a new day and full of new choice. What will your choice be? Continue behavior from your toxic past? Or will you identify it and adopt new habits that can be positively rewarded?

Eye Opening & Beautiful Opportunities Are Ahead of You.

I’m not going to sugar coat this. When you dive into self examination with Tarot  you can uncover some truths that you may not be prepared for. So you have to be open. You have to be gentle with yourself. When we do that together you’re going to get a dose of reality. If you’re not open to it and shut down, a Tarot reading is going to be really frustrating.

Facing toxic past patterns is like the mirror in snow white – you don’t always see what you want to see. Imagine what’s on the other side though:

• you’ll see your ugliness so you can see your beauty
• you’ll see your meanness so you can see your care
• you’ll see pain you cause others so you can see their joy
• you’ll see pain you caused yourself so you can see your self care
• you’ll see regret so you can see opportunities

Protecting toxic past behavior only causes you to repeat the wrong choices.

• you’ll experience loneliness
• you’ll experience loss
• you’ll experience rejection
• you’ll experience depression
• You’ll go through all of this again

You’re In a Safe Space to Create Spectacular Outcomes.

So let’s stop the cycle! I want to be very clear. Having a Tarot reading in order to expose your toxic past patterns and behaviors is brave. You will probably sit across from me and feel like I’m going to judge you. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Every fiber in my being wants to see you on the other side of that behavior. Uncovering it is only the beginning.

If you acknowledge toxic past patterns for a moment you could experience feeling like an idiot, or like a jerk or even feeling like an asshole. But if you accept toxic past behaviors you can change them! You’ll be the mature one. You’ll be seen as accepting responsibility. You’ll be working on yourself instead of for another’s betterment. that means you’ll be in a better position to help others when they need it.

So why not just forget about the past and live for today? Living in the now doesn’t erase the past. More importantly it doesn’t remove the patterns we’ve created. Mindfulness is accessible but not achievable without awareness. You are the sum of your experiences. History repeats itself unless you examine your choices and alter your course.

When You Need Me, I Got You.

If you’ve never had a Tarot reading and you don’t know what to expect, I got you.

Choice | Questions | Preparation

Your Tarot reading with me is meant to be eye opening and transformative. I’m not here to be carnival trick. I’m here to change your life by activating your potential, giving you momentum, and to help you achieve your goals. I do that my confirming where you are today (toxic past patterns in this case) and giving you the steps you need to get past that crap starting tomorrow.

Check me out on Periscope.  Or shoot me an email and connect with me about what your concerns are. You can even find out more about how to prep for a Tarot reading and what to expect in my blog.

As a quick side note, I’m not a substitute for a mental health professional. Ever. If you want to go to a counselor, be my guest. You could talk for months about your mommy and daddy issues. Or we could get down to brass tacks with a Tarot reading and see what your toxic past patterns are. Then you could start working on how to alter them today. And then that professional may be even more important. ‘Cause you’ll be primed for them.

Don’t Get Stuck Just Require More Information.

One thing that will certainly hold you back is not being open to the objective insight of a Tarot reading. Being closed off will stop your progress. Progress looks like you being open and available with a supporting tribe and a positive outlook on life.

One more thing that will get you there: a follow up plan. Without a follow up plan to a reading like the Transformation reading, you’re probably going to repeat the same patterns. A follow up plan is self directed and includes the freebie or being supported by me with a plan like the email or the 30m call follow up.

Tarot Verifies Unexpected Opportunity

Working with a Tarot reader like me opens up the possibilities of change. You have to be open to change though. You might be too close to your own patterns of toxic past behavior to see them. A third party objective tool like Tarot can shine a light on patterns. You might even find yourself saying that “someone” (mom, friend, etc) keeps telling you that…

Are so close to your toxic past behaviors that you struggle to understand them? A Tarot reading from me can open up actions or connect you with people to support your shift into a more positive place.

By exploring your toxic past through Tarot I know you’re going to not only be available for others but that you’ll also live a more positive life today without regret.

And you’ll get there because you’ll stop repeating toxic past patterns by acknowledging and releasing the past. You’ll create positive patterns so that you’re living in the now. You’ll certainly be successful in your self improvement journey!

So if you want to live a more positive life where you enjoy your life today without regret and you can be emotionally available for others, what you need is my reading for Transformation.

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