by Seth | Aug 14, 2021 | Relationships
Internalized Homophobia Is Always Hidden My first long term relationship ended because of internalized homophobia. It was 1990-something around Christmas time and we were living together on Gay street in Portland, OR. Really. He had spent most of the day at the tavern...
by Seth | Aug 8, 2021 | Relationships
Parents And Others Expectations People pleasing is embedded in gay men very early. The first gay men I was directly exposed to were a pedophile (who was actively stalking me) and an actor in community theatre. The pedophile was arrested and the actor died within a...
by Seth | Mar 5, 2021 | Life
Trauma, Micro Aggressions, and Shame – Oh My! Childhood trauma is a bitch. This isn’t the kind of trauma that comes with a gaping bloody wound. But the internal scars from our experiences with family are there forever. I’ll never forget my little brother falling...
by Seth | Feb 19, 2021 | Relationships
When you show up for each other you put aside your needs to make your partner happy. That doesn’t mean that you don’t ever get your needs meet. But for the moment, you’re sacrificing for your husband – boyfriend – partner – whatever. What Not To Do...
by Seth | Jan 27, 2021 | Relationships
You’ve been trying to discover the secret to finding the perfect relationship forever. Well, after (do we really say a number or lie?) so many failed relationships, glorious nights that went nowhere, alleys, truck beds (she’s country), and a nearly 20 year marriage,...