If you’re thinking about getting a reading and you feel like I should be wearing a cape, be all knowing, and put on a great show – you’ve come to the wrong reader my friend. And the last time I did that I was stage managing Dracula and probably shouldn’t have been touching someone else’s costume.
Here’s a short list of some of the questions I get about questions. You can totally take tarot further than what you remember from a black and white horror movie or a 70’s Bond film. I’m really surprised it never showed up in Whatever Happened To Baby Jane!
Do I Need a Question For My Tarot Reaing?
If you’re sitting with me for the first time you might not know that having a question can enhance your overall experience. Getting a tarot reading doesn’t have to be the parlor trick you see in the movies. Or event a silent test of psychic abilities.
If you’re about to go on a date (because you’re looking for the love of a lifetime) and you’re wondering if fucking is on the menu and if this is a one night fling or if he’ll be around in the morning, let’s talk about THAT and what you’re looking for in a partner.
I will always recommend having a question to ask me when sitting for a reading. How much you share around it is up to you. I prefer to work with you from where you are.
Our time together will be limited. So let’s not fuck around. Let’s get to the heart of what you’re struggling with.
What Should I Ask During A Tarot Reading?
Now, if you’re struggling with knowing what to ask me as a Tarot reader, you’re not alone. More than likely you know that you’re at a point of change and you’re looking for insight. Especially when other efforts seem to be exhausted.
Or maybe you’re just horny and wondering of this fling is going to be worth it or not. I mean, if I’d asked about some of the dates I went on before I went on them, I couldn’t saved us both some time. You go in the FWB group and you go in the friend group, and you go in the I-might-want-more group.
A question for a reading isn’t necessary. But it will help you get the most out of your reading with me. Having a question sets your intention. It focuses you and me on what’s most important to you during our time together (and after you leave).
Ask yourself, why did you decide to get a tarot reading? What was the inciting incident that led you to set up some time to get a reading with me? That’s where the heart of your question lies.
More often then not, it’s because some dude surprised you. You didn’t expect to catch some feels. Or he said something that made you question his feelings. And teenage you comes back and wants him to check a box that says YES! Have you ever felt the devastation of NO or MAYBE? Ugh.
Once you have a question, we might have to work together to phrase it in a way that drives toward an actionable solution. So here’s some ideas on how to ask a question for any sort of Tarot reading.
My Question Is Really Personal
First – a tarot reader secret. Every question I hear is extremely personal. You’re not alone there. And if that’s news, that’s just how tight lipped I am about what you are about to ask me.
For example, I’ve been asked some extremely sensitive questions. I’ll list a few themes here to clarify the point. I’ve been asked about, multiple dating prospects and how they compare to each other, the relationship & health outcome of a hysterectomy; how to strengthen polyamorous relationships (from one member) in conservative country, and if a relationship with a married man would amount to anything.
While bias is something that exists, it’s also something I strive to be aware of so that I can challenge my own. I leave my judgement at the door. The time we’re spending together is about you and your greatest good.
Also, I’d hate to spend 30-60 minutes with you on a question you asked to save face and then find out later (or in the last five minutes) that what you really wanted to know was something totally different. I mean, asking me about how you can improve your sex life is way different that asking me what the outcome is of talking to your partner about exploring fisting and introducing poppers.
You might want to introduce poppers and then go for the fisting. If you were wondering…
How should I phrase a question?
I believe that tarot readings are not mean to predict your future, answer yes or no questions or help you win the lottery. That’s also part of my style. They’re great insight into the examination of choices. (Like fisting and poppers)
But nothing is set in stone. You might find a trajectory and the glimpse of what a potential future could be simply based on your actions. There could be moments of yes/no based on our conversation. (Apparently I tend to say no to a lot of things and I’m working on it. )
Some specific templates for a question include:
- What are the conditions surrounding my choice to come out at work?
- What is the outcome if I choose to leave my current job?
- What is the outcome of if I accept this promotion?
- What are the conditions surrounding my relationship with X?
- What is the outcome if I accept a position at X company?
- What are the conditions surrounding my trip to Glasgow?
- An employee just told me they’re transgender, how can I best support them?
Translations for a Question You Might be Thinking
- Will I find my true love? or get married? > What steps can I take to prepare myself to be ready for a partner who compliments me?
- Will I get the job? > What actions can I employ to put myself in the position to be seen as the right person for the job?
- Will I ever stop picking the wrong partner? > What habits do I fall into in relationships and how can I change them?
- Are there children in my future? > You should probably think back to if you had sex or met with a doctor for insemination. Then probably, yes. We all know how the baby thing works. Get a test at Walgreens. or talk to your surrogate service 🙂
- Anything surrounding your children > Asking about a child’s behavior is invasive and intrusive. But if you’re asking as a parent how you can best support your child during/through…X; that’s a stronger question.
Tarot readings can help you examine your decisions, choices, experiences, your spirituality and your personal connection to the universe (or world around you). In doing so, Tarot will help you make informed decisions about the choices you have in front of you.
You’re the Psychic Tarot Reader. Don’t You Know My Question?
I am not a mind reader! I will use the tarot to help address your choices and will need your active participation in our conversation/email before the reading.
Can I Ask a Question for (or spy on) Someone Else?
I can only answer questions for the person who is actually asking them. I wouldn’t be telling the truth to say I could access the other person’s (the one not in the room or asking the question) energy. Tarot reading online can be much more challenging to find the thread of energy from a post or email. Additionally, if you leave me a question asking as someone else, your answer will pertain to you and not to the person you’re asking for, and that’s not cool for the person you’re taking the time to support.
Some other Resources
The Tarot Reader suggested effective questions
Llewellyn Worldwide suggests being proactive