Understanding A Habit
We all have habits we’d like to break. Some would like to cease smoking. A few would like to find a way to be more aware of eating. Others would like to stay away from that great time suck, Facebook. Some of us use one or more of these to excess. What’s that got to do with Tarot, you say? Well, I’m so glad you asked. I have a spread that I like to use that gets us to the meat of habits and why we indulge in them. Once you understand a habit, then you can work on either breaking it or acknowledging what could make it a healthy habit.
I’m going to walk through the spread with a problem I have. I hate to call people. I’ve hated it since I was very young. That rotary wall phone in the kitchen was an abhorrent thing. I dislike calling people so much that I have made it a habit to assume that my husband will make all necessary phone calls. Even when it comes to pizza. I know I can call people. I do it at work. I call people if I need to discuss a technical problem when my finances are in play. I can call people! But I have a habit of assuming that my husband will call before I even make the effort. So I’d like to understand why.
Habit Spread Walk Through Habit Trigger
My trigger is explained by the Ace of Wands. Navigating a new relationship with someone I don’t know (and frankly, will probably never hear from again or even see) is a struggle. My nerves get all crazy. I get worked up. It’s like being ready for battle and who knows, there might not even be an issue I need to battle over. So I’d rather assume that someone who could embody my desires and wishes speak for me.
There is no surprise here for me when I see the 8 Swords. Of course I find 8 million different reasons to not engage in a phone call when I need to actually perform one. I probably need to do laundry. Of course I need to empty and fill the dishwasher. One of our ferrets has missed the litter box and I need to take care of that before I can have a clear head. Excuse after excuse, I find a way to make it inconvenient for me to call so that he’ll just get it done and over with.
When I’m indulged by my husband, I realize my efforts to thwart my (potential) responsibility have worked! The 9 Stones makes it clear that I learn and catalogue these experiences for future use. He’s taken care of the task and I am no longer needed for it to be accomplished. So yes, I’m justified, whatever ridiculous excuse I came up with to avoid making the call will be employed again. Because it works!
The Ace of Stones tells me that the energy I put into avoiding making a phone call could be better served by just engaging in the call and completing the task.
Review of Habit Spread
So it would appear that I spend a lot of energy freaking out, navigating excuses, mapping and managing those excuses for future use, and putting more effort into creating excuses than just getting things done on my own. I’ve lessened my power. I’ve imbalanced the relationship. I’m taking advantage of my husband.
So what do I do? I just might need to do another reading for myself based on an action spread. If you’d like to try out a simple reading, join my list to the right in the sidebar. Or you can try this reading out below.Like this Reading? Get Your Own!